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Still believe in romantic love?
This story will challenge your assumptions about soul mates, age and passionate love. It’s the true story of Cynthia Rigg. She was 86 years old when she shared her life’s love story…
Silence is Golden, or is it?
I see the sad consequences of silence – the assumptions, misunderstandings and distance it can create. I am tracking the results of my Postscripters and time and time again I see relationships healed and blossoming as a result of the courage to communicate gently. Done respectfully, heartfelt words become a gateway to greater depth and intimacy.
The Precious Art of Sacrifice
Recently I was working on a letter from a mother to her adult daughter. It was no Hallmark card. People think the alternative to a Postscript is writing a letter themselves. But in truth, the more popular alternative is to just say nothing. Terrified of saying the wrong thing, we avoid the topic (or the person) altogether. This can splinter the relationship and ultimately lead to it diminishing and breaking down.
Top 5 Pitfalls to Avoid in a DIY Message
I’m all for communication, but when it comes to matters of the heart, it can be a tricky balance between being raw and relatable. We need to have enough emotion to connect, but not so much it hijacks the sentiment. Here are the top 5 pitfalls I regularly see, and the tips to overcome them.
Don’t Die Wondering!
I know the regret of not saying something in the moment, and never catching the opportunity again. My job is to listen for their true expression, capture it and express it back in written words.
Men of Few Words
The more you can expand on your feelings, the more joy is available to you. Regular gratitude practice increases oxytocin in the brain. Your investment in time will be aptly rewarded.
How well do you manage your emotions and your money?
How well do you manage your emotions and your money? (Possibly appalling time to ask this as we squeal into Christmas)……. I found myself pondering Jane’s advice and thought it worthy to share.
A funny thing happened on the way to Channel Country…
What does one comedian, two speakers, three Mexican singers and a politician all have in common?
We all headed to Channel Country recently to celebrate several hundred women from the surrounding 200,000km2 of land. I spoke about legacy, not so much in what we do, but the courage, enthusiasm and hope we bring to each day, and the invitation to become a version of ourselves we can’t see yet.
Want to end the year on a high?
I have an awesome practice I developed a few years back which has made all the difference to my MOTIVATION, PRODUCTIVITY, CONNECTION and JOY as I close out the year. This 4 week program guarantees you end the year on a HIGH – with CLARITY about where you’re at and where you’re headed BEFORE a new year rolls around.
I did not want to live a diminished life…
Over the years I’ve learned to distinguish between making an impact and shaping an impact. Between just existing and being truly CONNECTED to my days. The first step in getting off the treadmill is to literally STOP. Pause. Breathe and notice life with all your senses.
Need more Intimacy in your Marriage? Try this…
You see, marriage (especially after many years), can feel like a well worn slipper, comfortable and familiar. Sometimes there is so much history, so much assumed knowledge, so much said and done that to break the pattern and do something different is a HUGE STEP.
The Surprising Truth About Hard Work
Where did we learn work had to be hard? I don’t know about you, but when I was growing up, hard work was ingrained in us. It was expected you work hard to get results. But working hard and hard work are not the same.
Patience is a Virtue… or is it?
I have found that holding too tightly to my dreams can suffocate them and make the wait an anxious, torturous one. So what is the alternative? The alternative is to make peace with where you’re at, clarify your intentions, take consistent action towards your goal and continue with curious anticipation. Let’s break it down…
3 Words Never to Write
I applaud the idea of writing your own legacy letter, but have 3 observations of what to avoid if you ever want your letter to be read.
How reflective writing is capturing lost moments
Our minds are naturally designed to sift and sort through thousands of thoughts and memories a day. If we don’t capture them, speak them out and record them, we can lose them, as easily as we do our glasses and keys. he help of an investigative writer helps you pull and preserve memories you might typically diminish or gloss over. You speak. We write. You reflect.
It sucks to be misunderstood… delivering context in your message
At the review meeting, her boss tore shreds off her in front of the team. She retreated in humiliation, discouraged and demoralised. Has that ever happened to you? The whole fiasco might have been avoided if the writer placed as much importance on context as content.
Look what the cat dragged in! Sharing your story.
We walk in and out of each other’s lives, sharing parts and keeping pieces to ourselves. The less than perfect pieces are what make your story interesting and relatable… meanings comes from your vulnerability, reminds the listener and reader they’re not alone in their questions and doubts.
Struggle with Courage? Try this…
Do you struggle with courage? Courage often whispers to us in little invitations and one thing I have learned is that you must release something to make space for something better
3 Ways to Find your Joy
The truth is, it can be a case of checking in with your values and making some hard decisions. But if you don’t have the luxury of making a change short term… I used these 3 techniques to find my way back to greater joy.
Our stories are more valuable than our stuff… How to write a meaningful letter
What is the most valuable gift you can give someone?
Your time…..
And what if you have no time…?
Dress For The Boat You Want, Not the One You Have…
Mid way through January, how are you tracking with your 2022 intentions?
Raise your expectations to your dreams, don’t be limited by your circumstances.
And it’s a (Christmas) Wrap….
It seems to me this year is even more frantic than usual. Not just the typical Christmas hurry to prepare for guests, buy presents, make festive food and manage sometimes tricky family...
A Lesson That Took Me 20 Years to Learn
My Mentor’s final lesson was one I will never forget.
3 Little Known Factors About Progress
You want to make a difference, to live a bigger life, be more energetic and inspirational. You don’t want to still be here a year from now, feeling the same way, talking about the same things. You want to find what’s next for you. You seek clarity and a plan.
An Unlikely Calling
All adults have the right to see and access the money they earn. And I do have a thing for female financial independence. Regardless of how much you earn, knowing that you have the capacity to do so, is incredibly helpful for confident decision making.
How to Call in Calm
The brain is designed to keep us safe and so when we attempt any change (even if it is for the better) our default position is to what’s familiar. The good news is that we can, with greater self awareness, rewire our brain for a more effective response to the stresses that trigger them.
Live Life Before You’re Ready
Sam Hughes has a lesson to teach us about living life before you’re ready,
with what you have,
despite all the rational reasons why not,
and allowing a bigger purpose to guide you.
The Invitation in The Ordinary
Heroes don’t always wear capes.
They walk among us each day, using the circumstances in front of them to lighten the mood and load of those around them with humour, a smile, theatre or a kind word.
How to deal with unwelcome news….
Imagine you had only 6 days to live.... This was the reality that confronted my friend. Given only days to prepare, he took the unusual decision to reject his prognosis and decide to live, not in an...
How Top Stay Positive in Tough Times
When the world is moving too fast, and you feel forgotten and left behind, it’s all about “staying connected to people and information that build you up.
How to Save $2k Series…..
Leading a rich life is less about your bank balance and more about the freedom it affords you.
I’ve learned you can earn less and live more with a good formula.
Or conversely, earn more and live less if you’re not mindful.
Maybe the Answer’s Right In Front of You….
Sometimes the biggest breakthroughs come from the most unassuming beginnings….
Do You Need this as Much as I Do?
Are you prepared to shake things up to get through this pandemic?
Have you considered doing something new and different, simply for the sake of it?
I encourage you savour every crumb.
Learning to Accept with Grace and Let Go with Dignity
You may not control the outcome, or other people’s opinions, or the weather, or Covid, or changed holiday plans. But you do control what you do next. And how you greet tomorrow.
Talking Money and Change
Has it ever occurred to you that we call loose money “change”?
Imagine if you saw it as a reminder of the philosophies you wanted to live by?
Talking Habits, Drifting and Deleting
They sneak up on you.
A snack with your cuppa. Hitting the snooze button. Deferring the filing until tomorrow. Leaving just in time to make the appointment. I’m guilty of all these.
Talking about Money Peace
Last night my nephew, James Fitzgerald launched his book, “Bulletproof Investor.” It’s about financial literacy and is written for those under 30, who have done all the right things and still found themselves in a debt spiral, not sure of where and how to get ahead.
About Me
Hello I'm Louise Fitzgerald-Baker, Well-th Coach.
I help women close the gap between wealth and wellbeing.
Most of my career has been in the property sector where I saw a lot of wealth at the cost of wellbeing.
And on the flipside, I've met a lot of yoga and pilates instructors with wellbeing, but not a lot of financial security.
I've discovered there's a Wealth & Wellbeing Sweetspot.
Having found it, I now devote my life to helping others do the same.
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